A tender topic, met with understanding

It’s common to expect joy after having a baby — but for many mothers, the postpartum season brings waves of emotion that can feel heavy, confusing, or even frightening. Postpartum depression (PND) is not a sign of failure. It’s a real and treatable condition that affects 1 in 7 mothers — and support is available.

You are not alone. And you are not failing.

What’s the Difference Between Baby Blues and Postnatal Depression?

 Baby Blues

  • Very common (affects up to 80% of new mothers)

  • Usually starts 2–5 days after birth

  • Caused by the sudden hormone shifts, exhaustion, and new demands

  • Symptoms: tearfulness, mood swings, irritability, overwhelm

  • Usually resolves on its own within 1–2 weeks

 Postnatal Depression (PND)

  • Deeper and more persistent than baby blues

  • Can begin anytime in the first year postpartum

  • May include ongoing sadness, numbness, anxiety, or detachment

  • Doesn’t go away on its own and often needs support or treatment

  • Can impact bonding, daily function, and self-worth

 Signs of Postnatal Depression

You might be experiencing PND if you notice:

  • Feeling persistently low, numb, or tearful

  • Irritability, anxiety, or intrusive thoughts

  • Feeling disconnected from your baby or loved ones

  • Changes in sleep, appetite, or motivation

  • Struggling to enjoy things you used to

  • Feelings of guilt, shame, or “not being enough”

  • Thoughts of self-harm or wishing you could escape

 Sadness During Let-Down? It Could Be D-MER

Some breastfeeding mothers experience a wave of sadness, anxiety, or dread just as milk is released. This is called Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER).

  • Caused by a brief drop in dopamine during milk let-down

  • Feelings usually pass within a few minutes

  • Not caused by trauma, depression, or lack of love for your baby

  • Often goes unspoken — but it’s real and valid

If you feel emotionally distressed while feeding, know that you’re not alone, and there are ways to support both your mental health and breastfeeding journey.

 You Deserve Support

There is no shame in needing help. In fact, reaching out is a sign of deep strength. Support can come from:

  • A GP, midwife, or maternal health nurse

  • A perinatal psychologist or counsellor

  • Postpartum peer support groups (we offer these at Earthside)

  • Gentle conversations with someone you trust

National Helplines (Australia):

Postnatal depression

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