Feeding Aversions in Babies (4–5 Months)

It's common for babies around 4–5 months to suddenly resist feeding. This phase can feel distressing for both baby and mother — but it’s often temporary and manageable with the right support.

What Is a Feeding Aversion?

A feeding aversion is when a baby appears unwilling or distressed during feeds, even when hungry. This may happen suddenly or gradually.

Common Causes at 4–5 Months

Developmental Causes

  • Growing brain development increases alertness and curiosity

  • Easily distracted by sounds, sights, and movement around them

  • Learning new skills like rolling, reaching, and interacting with the environment can compete with feeding interest

  • Desire for more social interaction or stimulation during feeding times

  • Early signs of autonomy as baby starts to express likes and dislikes

Physical Causes

  • Teething: sore gums make sucking uncomfortable

  • Reflux or tummy discomfort

  • Illness: ear infections, colds, or congestion

Feeding Experience Causes

  • Negative associations: previous stressful feeds, forceful letdown, discomfort during feeds

  • Overstimulation during feeds

  • Pressure to feed or over offering

  • Feeding position or flow that feels uncomfortable for the baby

Routine and Life Changes

  • Sleep changes or regressions

  • Preparing for the transition to solid foods

  • Changes in caregiver or environment

Signs of a Feeding Aversion

  • Turning away from breast or bottle

  • Crying or arching during feeds

  • Feeding only when sleepy

  • Short, frequent "snack" feeds

  • Fussing at feeding times

  • Slower weight gain if persistent

Gentle Strategies to Support Baby

  • Rule out medical causes: seek advice from paediatrician or lactation consultant

  • Follow baby's cues: offer feeds calmly, don’t force

  • Minimise distractions: quiet, dim space; skin-to-skin contact calm music, essential oils (good for mum too)

  • Try different positions: laid-back, side-lying, or upright

  • Offer sleepy feeds: baby may feed better when drowsy

  • Create positive associations: gentle rocking, singing, and cuddles outside feeding

Caring for Yourself as a Mother

  • This is not your fault — feeding aversions are common and usually temporary

  • Reach out for professional support and community connection

  • Use calming tools: breathing exercises, mindfulness, light walks, rest, calm music, essential oils

  • Remind yourself:
    "I am offering, not forcing. My baby and I are learning together."

If you're feeling overwhelmed, you are not alone. Support is available.

Feeding Aversions